How do you keep yourself from being upset when you don't conceive?
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This is my first month trying to conceive. I charted everything and even detected my ovulation day. If I don’t get pregnant soon I know I am going to be very dissppointed since I am already stressed from waiting to take a pregnancy test.
How do you keep yourself from being upset when you don’t conceive?
I don’t want to "just let it happen" without tracking my ovulation because then it could take even longer to conceive!
I don’t think you can help but get upset and disappointed when it doesn’t work. I find it best to not dwell upon the possibilities. If I catch myself counting ahead and trying to figure out the birthday, or imagine how I will tell all of my family the news, I cut myself off and think about something else. Also, the first three months were the hardest for me. Those were the months I really expected to get pregnant, so the disappointment was great. The longer I went, the less I expected and the less upset I became. So stay as busy as possible with work or hobbies, don’t let your mind dwell on the possibilities during the 2 week wait, and remember that your chances are very good and it is pretty unlikely that you are going to have problems conceiving in the long run.
Good luck and I hope you get great news with your pregnancy test.
I totally understand how you feel….the very first month we tried, it didn’t work. I was so disappointed – I kept asking myself…what is wrong with me!? And my mind begins to wonder and think about the possibilities of what could be wrong with me. I KNOW it is way too early to be so anxious but it is so hard not to. This is month number two and I hope to be pregnant. I think I wasted three or four home pregnancy tests during that first month. I am a little more relaxed this month, but not much. Pregnancy is still very much on my mind…obviously, since I am ready and answering questions on this board!
I keep telling myself that when the time is just right, it will happen. I wish you the best and good luck (to both of us)! 
This is my third month ttc. I am late put still not a positive test. The last two months when my peroid came I was so upset but I think if it dont happen this month I will be crushed because I am late this month! Good Luck
Just enjoy the practice!
I was going to ask the same question. I have been trying also. I have been thinking about enjoying Christmas, my husband and my family. Also I ask God to give me peace about this. Maybe you can also think about something else that you like such as buying a new blouse, getting a haircut, or going out with your girlfriends.
I hope we both conceive soon.
God bless you.
they Key is not to think about it as hard as it is you really need to take you mind off it or you will never have a baby.
Trust me I’ve tryed for over a year to have a baby and when I gave up two months letter I found out i was going to have a baby
Let’s be honest, it’s hard to not get upset, but try to keep it in perspective. Depending on your age, doctors don’t generally get too concerned unless you’ve been trying for a year with no results (6 months if you’re older or have certain conditions) and this is just your first month, so don’t make yourself crazy!
The hardest thing for me was people constantly telling me "relax and it’ll happen". It was aggravating because I *was* relaxed and it wasn’t happening. Turns out there was a problem… so people mean well, but it’s hard to relax when everyone is telling you to relax. It sort of makes you feel like it’s your fault it’s not happening because you’re not relaxed enough.
I’ve got one child through IVF and have gone through *years* of infertility treatments (on and off) and what kept me sane is having a plan… a next step if this time doesn’t work.
You have to be flexible, but if you give yourself some timelines like "ok, if I’m not pregnant by this date, I’ll see a doctor" and "if clomid doesn’t work, we’ll jump to the next treatment at this date". and so on. That way you won’t feel helpless like you don’t have any options.
For me, having a plan B in mind was helpful. Then I didn’t feel like it was the end of the world if it didn’t happen that month.
Try to remember that stress doesn’t help your fertility any, so think of things to keep your mind off of it a little if you can. I think the average woman has something like a 20% chance of becoming pregnant each month, so while your percentage of getting pregnant doesn’t increase each month, your cummulative chances increase over time and chances are good that you’ll be pregnant before you know it!
Keep using your ovulation tracker, it will help, but realize that it’s all in God’s hands. You’ve just started trying, give it some time. Relax and enjoy the sex!
That is a very very good question. My husband and I did the same thing for the first two months. Then we decided to just relax and have fun having sex. The third month, I’m Pregnant! I know you don’t want to hear thins, but really just relax and let it happen. Have sex every other day. Enjoy baby making with your man.
You just have to relax, remember it will happen when your body is ready. You are already ahead of the game if you are charting your bbt and taking home ovulation tests. As long as you are healthy and there are no fertility problems to speak of I would bet you will be pregnant within 6 months. But just have fun and enjoy the anticipation. Try not to get your hopes up because that will put unneeded stress on your body. Make sure you are taking your prenatal vitamins and staying away from stuff that could possibly lower your chances for conception (caffeine, drinking, smoking, etc) Other than that you just have to wait and hope for the best! Good Luck and lots of baby wishes to you!